Decolonize Your Truth: 3 Tools for Clarity in a World Distorted by Gaslight

Decolonize Your Truth: 3 Tools for Clarity in a World Distorted by Gaslight

We were in Goa.

A bunch of 20-something South Asians of many nationalities, who all knew each other and happened to be there at the same time.

Me and a friend went in the water together. The water was warm, calm, gorgeous. The sand was soft. We swam out a bit, to where our toes couldn’t quite touch the bottom.

We looked over, and noticed 3 young men in the water, staring at us, hard. We ignored them. Then they started to swim towards us. Then they circled us.

I was afraid. I looked at my friend. She looked afraid. None of our friends were near us. We started to swim back to the beach.

I’m a terrible swimmer.

How We Become Unstoppable

How We Become Unstoppable

I am starting Dialogue Lab because I believe we — the progressive movement — have what it takes to become an unstoppable force for social change. 

BUT. So often progressive spaces are defined by a sense that no one is saying what really needs to be said. Or if you are saying it, no one seems capable of hearing it. Or if you are hearing it, it’s as if every bridge is being burned. 

And so often, that’s what stops us in our tracks. 

But I believe we can do this. In so many corners of the movement, we are ALREADY doing it. We are finding ways to be together, and work together, that are true, fearless, make room for love, but leave no room for bullshit. 

And Dialogue Lab is all about amplifying THAT. Because that capacity to be both fierce and loving with each other is what’s going to make us unstoppable. 

Walking Against the Wind: Activists, Leadership, and Resilience

Walking Against the Wind: Activists, Leadership, and Resilience
How do I stay awake to our troubled world, without emotionally shutting down?  
How do I take action from a grounded place, when the wind threatens to knock me off my feet? 

And how can be both open and resilient, so I can show up fierce? 

These questions have been on my mind for a while. Then, last week I happened to be on a video conference with a bunch of therapists and coaches. One therapist told us about a client struggling with anxiety and depression.

Activism as Ritual: A Reclamation of Love and Justice

Activism as Ritual: A Reclamation of Love and Justice

Caro Acuña is a dear old friend of mine. We met while working at a nonprofit in Berkeley. I was 22 and pretty confused about life. She was 30 something, and she struck me as having more wisdom and heart than just about anyone I’d met.

One afternoon I asked for her help with a troublesome relationship. She sat down with me in the shade of a tree, and taught me the concept of emotional boundaries. It was a revelation.

I couldn’t get enough of her. Still can’t.